Many of you may be familiar with the children’s book, The Giving Tree that was written and illustrated by Shel Silverstein. It was first published in 1964; I discovered it two years ago. At the time I stumbled upon it because I had too much time on my hand. After I read it, I became emotional. I was shock, because the lesson was so out of the blue and unexpected… It’s about a tree that gladly give without condition, all it ever wanted in return is to spend time with the selfish boy who took. Even in the end when there is nothing else to give, he still gave. Two extremes at opposite end. That’s no way to live. How many of us give without condition, or give again and again knowing we won’t get anything in return? Honestly, the only people I think I would give such a privilege, are my parents and my daughter. Be honest with yourself, are you the selfish taker or the giver? We’re all work in progress. Everytime we think we got it, there will always be something else to learn and change. Self awareness is everything. Once we are aware, we should work on changing, even if it takes years of trying.
The giving tree.
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irfriske
June 10, 2012 at 10:52 AM
Such wonderful confirmation, after seeing this very book in my mind when I finally got to the bottom of all the layers of other peoples opinions that had been running my life and knew that the extreme giver “was” who I had become… and could now claim. Thank you so very much for your perfect timing!
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Cat
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 12:57 PM
Thanks Cat! I’m glad you caught on… I’ve played both rolls at different times in my life. We live and we learn.
irfriske
June 10, 2012 at 10:54 AM
Was suppose to be “could now clear”….ahhh, yes I am still so very human and prone to err! Hee hee! “.”
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 12:57 PM
Haha!
dianasschwenk
June 10, 2012 at 11:22 AM
This book is a great teaching tool, thank you so much for reminding me of it. Your questions are provocative and have got me thinking and reflecting.
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 1:00 PM
Yes you’re right, we’re in the same frame of mind today. http://talktodiana.wordpress.com/2012/06/10/is-being-right-always-right/ …. Thanks Diana!
Sword-chinned bitch
June 10, 2012 at 11:25 AM
Yay! I’m buying this for my nephews! I’m going to follow this lesson myself…
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 1:03 PM
Yeah, you will all love it
cynthiashepp
June 10, 2012 at 11:29 AM
Wow, seeing that took me back to my childhood! I love Shel Silverstein
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 2:55 PM
Oh cool. He’s a smart man.
fatsavagetransformation
June 10, 2012 at 11:45 AM
A great reminder of a good book. Think I did it the first time around in about 1975.
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 2:53 PM
Oh you did, cool. Yeah, it’s a good book to keep around the house.
fatsavagetransformation
June 10, 2012 at 3:10 PM
Unfortunately my ADHD does make me a little self centered and oblivious to the needs of others. But I keep working at it.
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 3:31 PM
I didn’t know it does that. Yes, that’s all you can do.
notesfromthelovewars
June 10, 2012 at 12:16 PM
Could the tree be the metaphor for Nature? And we humans are the thoughtless and infantile takers… will we wait to learn when it’s all gone?
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 1:07 PM
Wow, you’re on to something. I never though of it that way… I’m doing my part.
notesfromthelovewars
June 10, 2012 at 1:11 PM
Nature is God/Goddess expressed. I have loved that book since it first came out. For me, it expresses something so profound for all of us. We as a race of beings need to Grow up and Wake up… and Fast! Thank you for your posts !
Lipstick and Chaos
June 10, 2012 at 12:26 PM
I’ve never read it but perhaps a trip to the book store for a read will change that. I often feel like that and among women and friends, we discuss that. We give and give and give, with little expectation of anything in return. It is that once in a while reciprication that makes the giving worth the while but wish the “giving and recieving” were more of an equal ground! Ty for stopping by my blog for a read!
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 2:49 PM
T hope yoou enjoy it as much as I did… Thank you. You’re absolutely right.
Arabella FullofLife
June 10, 2012 at 2:07 PM
I’ve heard of the book but haven’t read it. I like the idea of the boy and the tree standing for humans and nature – even without reading it, your description has sold it to me. Thanks for finding my blog, by the way. Through Pinterest, by any chance? Glad you liked those two posts.
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 2:31 PM
Thanks Arabella!
joylevel
June 10, 2012 at 3:06 PM
Oh my gosh this is my favorite book:) I just love it.
shianwrites
June 10, 2012 at 3:07 PM
I can see why.
learnpraylove
June 10, 2012 at 4:32 PM
Wow. This is kind of like a Christian story.
The boy is us, the gifts of the tree are earthly blessings, and the tree itself is God.
God gave so much to make sure that we are taken care of. Even at the cost of something so huge we can’t even fathom it.
How great is His love!
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:55 AM
Amen!!! You’re right. I love your version. He is beyond great. His love is unbelievable.
Juanita
June 10, 2012 at 5:14 PM
Oh, haven’t we all been there – playing both roles at one time or another! I had a tendency to be an extreme giver which was all about keeping everybody happy, except of course that it left me tired, drained and very unhappy too. It’s all about finding that balance and forming a right relationship with yourself first and only then can you find that balance with all other relationships. Oh, and I do love that metaphor for the story representing the balance between us and Nature – food for thought there!
shianwrites
June 11, 2012 at 12:24 AM
Thanks Juanita. It truly is a food for thought… I didn’t think about the nature part until someone said it earlier.
boomiebol
June 10, 2012 at 6:54 PM
Going to check the book out, thanks for sharing
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:26 AM
Good. let me know what you think.
melodylowes
June 10, 2012 at 10:41 PM
Life is such a process! We so often expect to learn something well once. And yet – to truly assimilate new learning, it must be generously repeated! I’m so glad that I have many opportunities to learn and relearn the meaning of selflessness! I love this book and use it often in my classroom…
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:27 AM
Well stated Melody. Does all you student get it?
melodylowes
June 12, 2012 at 12:33 AM
Mmm…hard to say. They’re pretty little. I think they get it as deeply as they can for their stage in life!
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:37 AM
Oh okay, I understand.
melodylowes
June 12, 2012 at 12:39 AM
I’ve also used it with teens in character-building lessons, and they always seem to like it. It’s pretty ageless, isn’t it?
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:48 AM
Indeed it is. The author was very smart.
Zhen Huang
June 11, 2012 at 11:13 AM
I think adults should read more children books. This is definitely something that I am working on. Sometimes the most basic things are the hardest to get.
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:29 AM
You’re right. Dr. Seuss has some good ones too.
wes
June 11, 2012 at 2:37 PM
This has always been a favorite of my kids’ as well. In a sense it gives kids a comforting paralell to their own open-hearted, uncynical, deeply loving selves, reassuring them they’re not crazy to feel a love so total…
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:42 AM
Yeah, great stage to be though such things. I still remember lessons from books, like The Grape and the Fox & The Fox and the Crow.
Thanks Wes
russtowne
June 11, 2012 at 4:45 PM
I agree! It’s a wonderful book for people of all ages. Thank you for sharing it, Shian, and reminding me of the lessons contained in it.
Russ
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:31 AM
Absolutely. Thanks Russ.
nyparrot
June 11, 2012 at 6:36 PM
I know and love the book. And I could not agree more, having no backbone and keeping giving without having anything in return, without setting some boundaries is as bad as been selfish and asking for more without giving anything in return. The Boy is an egoist, and the Tree is an enabler.
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:35 AM
Who told you to read my mind. So not nice.
.. I was mad at them both, even though I was one or the other at some point.
nyparrot
June 12, 2012 at 1:33 AM
I think it’s rather nice to meet like-minded people:). We all are not perfect, and need to be reminded to have self-respect.Thank you for this post!
I HAVE A VOICE
June 11, 2012 at 8:33 PM
I can read this repeatedly and cryy! Thanks dear~`Deborah
shianwrites
June 12, 2012 at 12:32 AM
I did, the first time I read it. It’s deep and sad.
Aina Balagtas
June 11, 2012 at 10:35 PM
I should get that book. But honestly, me, people say I’m so gullible. coz i give too much. that even sometimes i know people are taking advantage of me already, I still give, thinking that it’s not me they’re feeling, but themselves. because i don’t actually expect reciprocity. when u give, it should always be unconditional.
sedrate
June 13, 2012 at 7:19 AM
Since getting married and having kids I’ve learned that I can’t give as much as I used to because it takes away from my own family.
I like Shel Silverstein’s poem that ends “This bridge will take you halfway there, the rest you walk alone.”
The Blazing Trail
June 16, 2012 at 1:56 PM
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Summer Moon
June 16, 2012 at 7:41 PM
Wow! This is a thought provoking post. I need to buy that book. I’ve never heard of it before, but it sounds beautiful. Thank you for sharing!
shianwrites
July 24, 2012 at 2:55 PM
Hey, how did you like the book?
simplersjoy
June 16, 2012 at 11:31 PM
Thank you for sharing! It prompted me to share a story I wrote a couple of years ago inspired by ‘The Giving Tree’ https://seedmind.wordpress.com/the-fertile-seed-of-grace-a-fable/
mybakingempire
June 19, 2012 at 3:33 PM
I am a giver, and it’s taken years of programming not to always give 100% of myself in every other person in every situation. But, I guess it’s my nature!
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jolynproject
June 25, 2012 at 10:16 PM
I can be both, actually I am like a selfish giver because I typically expect something in return. I try to stop it but it is there, rearing its ugly honest head.
Kim
July 8, 2012 at 7:04 AM
when I stumble upon this book on a bookstore, I cant help but shed a tear. Only one thing popped in my head right away. I knew someone who can fully represent the tree in the story, and that is our God who gave us everything and and loved us unconditionally. I felt guilt inside because I knew to my self that I became the boy in the story. Still brings tears in my eyes every time I remember the story. Other people may hate the story and may interpret it in a way that the boy is wrong or the tree is wrong. But for me, the boy define us human beings. We may do a lot of bad things or experience a lot of pain and suffering in our lives, but if we turn to Him, He will always welcome us and we will find rest, hope, confidence in Him. Matt 11:28 Praise the Lord, our God for ever and ever.
shianwrites
July 24, 2012 at 2:50 PM
Beautiful Kim!!!!! Well said. I agree, whole heartedly. God never give up on us, he always hope we’ll come around.
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shianwrites
July 24, 2012 at 2:45 PM
Thank you thank you!!!! This means alot.
Imani Deveraux
July 21, 2012 at 11:58 AM
So glad you wrote this! Most of my life, I’ve played the one who keeps giving until I run dry. And most times people seem to take advantage of that. No matter how much I find it hard to stop giving or caring, I never can. Some people are blessed this way, and others have to work very hard at it.
shianwrites
July 24, 2012 at 2:44 PM
So true Imani. I totally understand.
You have a beautiful heart.
Imani Deveraux
July 29, 2012 at 12:28 PM
shianwrites
July 30, 2012 at 10:40 AM
Thanks Imani
Lynika
August 1, 2012 at 5:24 PM
I must see if I can find this book for my children, great story, thanks for sharing!
shianwrites
August 2, 2012 at 12:55 PM
I’m glad. They’ll love it as they get older.
maggiemyklebust
August 4, 2012 at 3:03 PM
I pinned this book on Pinterest one night and when I woke up the next day, like 75 people had repinned it! So I did a post on my blog about it and you wouldn’t believe all the people who commented on how much they DISLIKED the book…. I was in shock! I like it and think there is much to learn from it…
shianwrites
August 4, 2012 at 3:07 PM
Dislike? I’m shock too. I guess, not everyone will be on the same page. It’s a pretty deep book.
bardessdmdenton
August 13, 2012 at 1:14 PM
Lovely post. Awareness is so important. Thanks for your recent visit to my blog.
shianwrites
August 14, 2012 at 9:42 PM
Thank you and no problem.
Scott Mitchell
August 14, 2012 at 7:50 AM
I love this post and your wise insight you express on the topic. We truly are a work in progress. I can easily look at others and see how they could be better, but looking honestly at myself I can see the same.
shianwrites
August 14, 2012 at 9:36 PM
Thanks Scott. I guess we’re all work in progress… Where have you been? I haven’t seen any post from you in a while.
persimmon2010
August 23, 2012 at 8:05 AM
one of my all times favorite, my other also
by Shel Silverstein are “The Missing Piece” and “Where the Sidewalk Ends.” Shel have a way to show the beautiful simplicity of language upon the critique of human nature/life.
shianwrites
August 23, 2012 at 8:53 PM
I should them out. I can see why his books are your favorite. He’s brilliant.
Cecilia B. Loving
December 5, 2012 at 9:53 AM
This is one of my favorite stories. Thank you for “giving” me a reminder of this vision. I remember being in an oral interpretation class in the 70′s, and a woman with long arms played the tree and read the story. It always brings back fond memories. Namaste.’
shianwrites
December 5, 2012 at 1:51 PM
Awww. I’m glad you did. You have a great memory.